We all know parenting is hard work, right? It's even harder when you're trying your best to do it right! This week I made the very difficult decision of making my daughter break up with her boyfriend. She is 16 years old and this was her first real relationship. My problem was that the boy was a bad influence on my daughter. He would not even accept me on facebook because he didn't want me to see all the cussing all over his page. But I knew he really liked my daughter a lot and they were getting way too emotionally attached for 16 year olds. Well, I tried giving my daughter the opportunity to break it off with him and when it became evident she was unwilling or incapable, I decided to do it myself. I told her she had to break up with him that night.
Little did I know the drama that was about to ensue! The next day I felt sorry for the boy so I text him to try to make him feel a little better. His "mom" answers and says Lucas is no longer with us....he killed himself last night...! She also proceeded to go on about how my daughter was everything to him and she made him happy and on and on. I had my husband call to find out if it was true and they would not answer. So we called the police to find out if it was true. The police said they did not respond to any suicide but if it was a diabetic overdose then it would have been considered medical and they wouldn't even know about it. My daughter believes the mom is lying and I don't know what to believe. I checked the obituaries this morning, called schools (I don't know which one he goes to, its in another town), and called the main hospital. I found no proof of his death as of yet.
The text messages have stopped and the boy has not tried to contact my daughter since the breakup. There is alot more to the story and it's very confusing. I don't know weather to believe its true or a lie! Right now we are going to assume it is not true until we have proof otherwise. I sincerely hope it is all a hoax. If it is then I am so glad I made the tough decision to get my daughter away from this psychologically challenged boy and his family!
Wow that is indeed craziness! I am the mother of twin girls who will be 16 at the end of the month so I feel for you. I have not had to forbid them from seeing anyone yet and I am not sure that I would. They are a little too much like me to take that well and I am afraid it would backfire and just drive them further from me and closer to him. I had a moment of panic when my daughter met my friend's 19 year old stepson and called "dibs". I should have trusted my daughters judgment though because shortly after they started communicating on facebook she realized he was not the guy for her. His spelling was atrocious and his grammar was worse:) So glad I raised such a picky child!
ReplyDeleteIt sounds to me like the boy wrote that not his mother because a mother would have called not sent a text about their childs suicide... At least I hope so.